OT: Very sorry to hear about your first wife. My wife was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer in 1989 and had a recurrence (malignancy in L4) last year.
A year later she is clear (again) on both PET and CT and is doing 3-4 miles a day on the treadmill...puts me to shame...lol.
Folks who long for the "good old days" don't appreciate how much we owe to modern medical practices.
(I marked this OT for the gentle readers who choose to skip the non CMKX stuff...lol)