You simply can't communicate with others without turning it into a flame war.
Yes I can. Sometimes I choose not to, but I can always avoid a war. I have that ability.
I tell you this though, I do know that if I were to be released, next time I get in trouble I might be suspended for good. The fact that I'm aware of that perhaps can be your and Fred's assurance of my good behavior.
The issue Fred is trying to address with you is the style at which you debate.
I am under the impression that Fred wants me to avoid replying to any attack that comes my way. I said that is wrong. You say to change my style at which I respond to those such messages, I agree. My responses to those attacks perhaps weren't always productive to the debate, and only provoked immature name calling. That in a nutshell is what I did wrong when responding to those messages. I now believe those types of posts should be approached with caution.