The issue Fred is trying to address with you is the style at which you debate.
I am under the impression that Fred wants me to avoid replying to any attack that comes my way. I said that is wrong. You say to change my style at which I respond to those such messages, I agree. My responses to those attacks perhaps weren't always productive to the debate, and only provoked immature name calling. That in a nutshell is what I did wrong when responding to those messages. I now believe those types of posts should be approached with caution.