Hi, hawk,
Sorry to hear the market is not treating you well of late. I think any trader you talk to can relate to where you are now, because they've all been there once or twice or three times or . . . well, you get the picture! A successful trader does not spring full-blown from the head of Zeus, but must (most often painfully and expensively) master the skills involved.
TG is giving you good advice, and he's right -- if one doesn't learn to take small losses quickly, one often ends by taking much larger losses later (that's probably the first and most painful lesson a trader must master to survive). To my mind, it is wiser to master trading stocks before going into futures or options or currencies, where one can get wiped out a lot faster, but that's JMO.
Each trader has his personal demons that he must identify and overcome to be successful. I have a note over my trading desk that reads, "IT IS ALWAYS HOW YOU BUY IT!", meaning if one buys the stock at the right price (which usually means having patience, and not just jumping in or chasing), one nearly always makes money, or, worst case, doesn't lose much. I still need that constant reminder as I am impulsive by nature! <g> Have you analyzed your losing trades in an attempt to discover what personal demons might be hampering your success?
I would also stress plan the trade/trade the plan to help you over the problem of being too slow in pulling the trigger. If you have already picked the entry, exit and S/L points that offer the best chance for a successful trade and have patience while stalking the stock, you will not have to think before pulling the trigger when your target price materializes.
One last thing, I have learned from watching Zeev trade that one's chance of success is greater and one's risk smaller if one's goal is to take 25 cents from a stock 4 times a day as opposed to trying to get $1 once a day.
Hope this helps. FWIW, I usually have trading difficulties in Jan/Feb too, not sure why, though I suspect that's when they change all the rules, so what usually works, doesn't anymore <VBG>! Good luck to you.
Newly