Well, I apparently touched a nerve. I hope I didn't offend. SPXS and SQQQ are certainly the go-to funds, as good as any.
I college friend of mine went into the financial planning profession upon graduation. He lasted maybe 10 years before he left in disgust. He soured on all the people in his profession working to extract the maximum amount from the clients, and feeding the market with lambs, rather than working in the clients best interest.
I learned swing trading from him, and the key is to be positioned on the correct side of the market BEFORE a move comes, and not chase. Learn to recognize the 'fear of missing out' (FOMO), and to stand back when I do recognize it because another trade will always present itself if you are watching for it. I started by actively managing my 401k, then the same with my HSA. I went through an ugly divorce (wife was an alcoholic in denial), lost the house, tremendous attorney fees, ended up with full legal and physical custody of my two kids, lots of associated single parent expenses, then just when the kids were starting college, my now ex-wife, who promised to pay for 1/2 of all college expenses, died of liver failure. It finally caught up with her.
Fast forward to today. I have a house once again, my kids are out of college (I paid for it all), am less than 5 years from retirement, and I am forced to take more risk with my investments while I still have a steady income to "catch up". I would do it all over again though. The kids are thriving.
So, I am not surprised you and I trade differently.