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The Solipsistic Narcissist
"Narcissist and Solipsist, why not both - Trump isn’t a narcissist – he’s a solipsist. And it means a few simple things"
Related: Eroding Consolidation: Putin’s Regime Ahead of the 2024 “Election”
"Moscow analyst: Russia wants "permanent war" with West | Conflict Zone"
https://investorshub.advfn.com/boards/read_msg.aspx?message_id=174063010
The analyst there is Andrei Kolesnikov, the author here.
A person with NPD possesses a schizoid core and has no concept of self
Prajinta Pesqueda
Aug 25, 2023
Casey Horner
Note to readers: This article is loaded with terms and concepts that are worthy of further research. Unlike many of my pieces that invoke my personal experiences in order to share our common bond as survivors of a relationship with a disordered narcissist, this writing focuses on the psychology and philosophical underpinnings of the illness.
The inner landscape of a person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a desolate, howling wilderness, a frozen world, hollow and barren, cold and dead, with no connection to reality or external figures that might imbue a flicker of warmth or life.
Their schizoid core .. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=davPPUwIcHo .. is characterized by the narcissist’s struggle with forming meaningful connections and their distorted sense of self. Where identity and an authentic sense of self should live is replaced with arrogance, self-involvement, and entitlement which are compensatory mechanisms the narcissist has developed in order to replace their inner shame and trauma.
The shame for narcissists is carried deep within, and often impacts their feelings of worth that they cannot bring themselves to share with anyone. Since they have what is called discontinuous memory, it is even likely that they do not remember the things that happened to them in early childhood that caused such feelings. Their selective memory only remembers about 30% of the past with accuracy and fidelity. The rest is either completely erased, rewritten with a new twist, or totally fabricated out of thin air. And that is their reality — this crazy funhouse of mirrors and broken glass, illusions and delusions, monsters and heroes, fantasy and fiction.
They internalize everything and everyone so there is no true connection to external forces in the real world. This happened when they failed to achieve separation and individuation as an early childhood developmental stage that was not completed for one reason or another.
The most common reason they could not complete this crucial stage that is at the heart of their impaired objects relations is because of an impaired, abusive, or absent mother, also known as the “dead mother.” This mother violated boundaries between mother and child in ways that created a destructive obstacle to healthy stages in growth.
People with NPD are known to be what in philosophy is called solipsistic. Some might even argue they are one and the same. But the distinction between solipsism and narcissism is a subtle yet distinct. Briefly put, solipsism is the philosophical theory that the self is all that exists while narcissism is the absence of self and subsequent replacement with a false self (persona).
The narcissist is a contradiction. They need people for supply/fuel, but there is no true desire or ability to connect or ability to achieve intimacy. They need you, but they hate needing you.
So what do you do when your worst enemy is your own brain/mind? This is the narcissist’s dilemma. The narcissist says, “I am invulnerable and superman” in order to ameliorate their anxiety and depression and as a way to respond to their shame and trauma, and let’s remember that narcissism is a reaction to trauma in a causal way.
Narcissists love themselves (in a grandiose infatuation with their false self, not real self), but they fail to form real attachments or bonding to others. Both the narcissist and schizoid share this quality of being incapable of attaching to another human being. They have flat attachment. Flat attachment is a type of attachment style where people are incapable of bonding or empathizing with others. They commodify people and treat them as replaceable objects. Flat attachment is common among narcissists, psychopaths, schizoids, and even sometimes those on the autism spectrum.
Melanie Klein was the first to articulate “splitting” (called the good and bad breasts) which is part of childhood development. She believed that humans are born with an unintegrated ego and need to employ certain tools to avoid death and disintegration. The mechanism of projective identification is projected onto the bad object in early childhood, but it serves an important purpose. It is a form of adaptation and a defense strategy to protect the image of the false self.
Envy is an important factor in all of this. Both the narcissist and the schizoid are examples about how destructive envy can damage a person and cause you to be less integrated. Both have arrested development due to destructive envy. Narcissists prefer to destroy themselves rather than allow you or anyone they envy to feel gratified and satisfied. For examples, if the narcissist harms, they can blame others and thus not feel envy because now they have been brought down and reduced, thus causing them to have no reason to envy them. They subsume the good object they envy so it cannot be a source of envy.
The narcissist defends himself against rage by solopsistically claiming to be the only good thing in the world. In order to avoid self-destruction by their own envy, they either devalue others or self-sabotage.
Their grandiose fantasies are the only protective barrier between them and their destructive and all consuming envy. So when you love them, you are “getting a piece of them” which provokes their wrath. Since they are detached and view themselves as superhuman, it is unacceptable to share this godlike perspective. It’s usually caused by a fixation on an early phase of object relations, and there is nothing that can be done to change it.
In metaphysics, metaphysical solipsism is the variety of idealism which asserts that nothing exists externally to this one mind, and since this mind is the whole of reality then the “external world” was never anything more than an idea and therefore does not exist.
In epistemology, epistemological solipsism is the claim that one can only be sure of the existence of one’s mind. The existence of other minds and the external world can not certain.
In psychology, narcissistic solipsism is the idea that there is nothing outside the magical thinking of the narcissist that creates a fantasy world that is pure fiction, thus creating a delusional alternate universe where they rule supreme, untouchable, inviolate.
In a culture obsessed with self-care, self-advocacy, self-realization, and self effficacy, we are encouraged to make ourselves the center of the universe and focus on ourselves above all else. So much of our society reinforces that idea, ignoring the need for selflessness, community, self-sacrifice, and altruism.
We, as a culture, have become more narcissistic. Since the 1980’s, it has been theorized to be increasing at the same rate as obesity and diabetes. Perhaps these things are all connected.
In The Heart Of Man .. https://www.nybooks.com/articles/1965/04/08/the-heart-of-erich-fromm/ , Erich Fromm identified what he called malignant narcissism. Healthy adults submit themselves willingly to something greater than themselves. Unhealthy adults don’t.
The narcissist cannot submit to something greater than themselves because there is nothing greater. In their imaginary world, they are God. And we, the ones victimized by these predatory and petulant children, we must kneel at their altar or be cast out from paradise.
[Insert: Donald Trump’s ‘chilling effect’ on free speech and dissent is threatening US democracy
[...]“Why would Alexander make that claim?” I asked.
“Because” he said, “it’s a lot easier to seize and hold
power when people think you have a connection to
their idea of divinity.”
While modern Hebrew scholars may disagree about why “amen” ends our prayers, it was a lesson for me that I’ve kept in mind ever since. Beware of leaders asserting connections to divinity, particularly if they’re grasping for political or financial power.
P - Trump is now openly encouraging his followers to think of him as divine or, at least, divinely inspired. And this isn’t a new pitch, it’s just getting a new round of attention."
Trump is now openly encouraging his followers to think of him as divine or, at least, divinely inspired. And this isn’t a new pitch, it’s just getting a new round of attention."
https://investorshub.advfn.com/boards/read_msg.aspx?message_id=176236039]
It’s a long way down, back to reality. And when we hit the ground, we often crash in a devastating and deadly way.
P. Pesqueda @ At Home in Austin
Want to learn more about Cluster B disorders and narcissistic abuse? Recovering from a relationship with a disordered person? Know someone who is struggling to make sense of the madness?
Visit .. https://www.narctroopers.com/ .. for a library of over 500 resources to help you be a trooper!
The sadness and grief that a narcissist feels is best described by Dr. Sam Vaknin when he says, “The conflict between the absence I am and the presence that I wish I were is a conflict that is ongoing. I was denied as a child. I was not allowed to become, so I never became, and I remained an unfulfilled promise.”
“Life is a process of becoming via insight. The environment acts upon our genes and helps to form us. It is insight that creates empathy. Having an insight to yourself allows you to have insight into others, and this is called theory of mind.
We are being formed as we go along. Empathy is the bridge and crossing to other people. It is only by comparing yourself to others and learning to calibrate yourself that we gain realistic insight about the world because other people are our reality testing.”
Last published May 3, 2025
After the discard phase in a relationship with a personality disordered partner, there is severe trauma that can result in PTSD and other life altering turmoil. Recovery can be painfully slow with dysregulated brain chemicals, a physiological response, addiction, and more.
Written by Prajinta Pesqueda
Educator, aspiring humanist, composer of words. Survivor, warrior, healer, believer. Contact me at Narc2Thrive@gmail.com
https://medium.com/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-collaborators/the-solipsistic-narcissist-832992b070e7
"Narcissist and Solipsist, why not both - Trump isn’t a narcissist – he’s a solipsist. And it means a few simple things"
Related: Eroding Consolidation: Putin’s Regime Ahead of the 2024 “Election”
"Moscow analyst: Russia wants "permanent war" with West | Conflict Zone"
https://investorshub.advfn.com/boards/read_msg.aspx?message_id=174063010
The analyst there is Andrei Kolesnikov, the author here.
A person with NPD possesses a schizoid core and has no concept of self
Prajinta Pesqueda
Aug 25, 2023
Casey Horner
Note to readers: This article is loaded with terms and concepts that are worthy of further research. Unlike many of my pieces that invoke my personal experiences in order to share our common bond as survivors of a relationship with a disordered narcissist, this writing focuses on the psychology and philosophical underpinnings of the illness.
The inner landscape of a person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a desolate, howling wilderness, a frozen world, hollow and barren, cold and dead, with no connection to reality or external figures that might imbue a flicker of warmth or life.
Their schizoid core .. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=davPPUwIcHo .. is characterized by the narcissist’s struggle with forming meaningful connections and their distorted sense of self. Where identity and an authentic sense of self should live is replaced with arrogance, self-involvement, and entitlement which are compensatory mechanisms the narcissist has developed in order to replace their inner shame and trauma.
The shame for narcissists is carried deep within, and often impacts their feelings of worth that they cannot bring themselves to share with anyone. Since they have what is called discontinuous memory, it is even likely that they do not remember the things that happened to them in early childhood that caused such feelings. Their selective memory only remembers about 30% of the past with accuracy and fidelity. The rest is either completely erased, rewritten with a new twist, or totally fabricated out of thin air. And that is their reality — this crazy funhouse of mirrors and broken glass, illusions and delusions, monsters and heroes, fantasy and fiction.
They internalize everything and everyone so there is no true connection to external forces in the real world. This happened when they failed to achieve separation and individuation as an early childhood developmental stage that was not completed for one reason or another.
The most common reason they could not complete this crucial stage that is at the heart of their impaired objects relations is because of an impaired, abusive, or absent mother, also known as the “dead mother.” This mother violated boundaries between mother and child in ways that created a destructive obstacle to healthy stages in growth.
People with NPD are known to be what in philosophy is called solipsistic. Some might even argue they are one and the same. But the distinction between solipsism and narcissism is a subtle yet distinct. Briefly put, solipsism is the philosophical theory that the self is all that exists while narcissism is the absence of self and subsequent replacement with a false self (persona).
The narcissist is a contradiction. They need people for supply/fuel, but there is no true desire or ability to connect or ability to achieve intimacy. They need you, but they hate needing you.
So what do you do when your worst enemy is your own brain/mind? This is the narcissist’s dilemma. The narcissist says, “I am invulnerable and superman” in order to ameliorate their anxiety and depression and as a way to respond to their shame and trauma, and let’s remember that narcissism is a reaction to trauma in a causal way.
Narcissists love themselves (in a grandiose infatuation with their false self, not real self), but they fail to form real attachments or bonding to others. Both the narcissist and schizoid share this quality of being incapable of attaching to another human being. They have flat attachment. Flat attachment is a type of attachment style where people are incapable of bonding or empathizing with others. They commodify people and treat them as replaceable objects. Flat attachment is common among narcissists, psychopaths, schizoids, and even sometimes those on the autism spectrum.
Melanie Klein was the first to articulate “splitting” (called the good and bad breasts) which is part of childhood development. She believed that humans are born with an unintegrated ego and need to employ certain tools to avoid death and disintegration. The mechanism of projective identification is projected onto the bad object in early childhood, but it serves an important purpose. It is a form of adaptation and a defense strategy to protect the image of the false self.
Envy is an important factor in all of this. Both the narcissist and the schizoid are examples about how destructive envy can damage a person and cause you to be less integrated. Both have arrested development due to destructive envy. Narcissists prefer to destroy themselves rather than allow you or anyone they envy to feel gratified and satisfied. For examples, if the narcissist harms, they can blame others and thus not feel envy because now they have been brought down and reduced, thus causing them to have no reason to envy them. They subsume the good object they envy so it cannot be a source of envy.
The narcissist defends himself against rage by solopsistically claiming to be the only good thing in the world. In order to avoid self-destruction by their own envy, they either devalue others or self-sabotage.
Their grandiose fantasies are the only protective barrier between them and their destructive and all consuming envy. So when you love them, you are “getting a piece of them” which provokes their wrath. Since they are detached and view themselves as superhuman, it is unacceptable to share this godlike perspective. It’s usually caused by a fixation on an early phase of object relations, and there is nothing that can be done to change it.
In metaphysics, metaphysical solipsism is the variety of idealism which asserts that nothing exists externally to this one mind, and since this mind is the whole of reality then the “external world” was never anything more than an idea and therefore does not exist.
In epistemology, epistemological solipsism is the claim that one can only be sure of the existence of one’s mind. The existence of other minds and the external world can not certain.
In psychology, narcissistic solipsism is the idea that there is nothing outside the magical thinking of the narcissist that creates a fantasy world that is pure fiction, thus creating a delusional alternate universe where they rule supreme, untouchable, inviolate.
In a culture obsessed with self-care, self-advocacy, self-realization, and self effficacy, we are encouraged to make ourselves the center of the universe and focus on ourselves above all else. So much of our society reinforces that idea, ignoring the need for selflessness, community, self-sacrifice, and altruism.
We, as a culture, have become more narcissistic. Since the 1980’s, it has been theorized to be increasing at the same rate as obesity and diabetes. Perhaps these things are all connected.
In The Heart Of Man .. https://www.nybooks.com/articles/1965/04/08/the-heart-of-erich-fromm/ , Erich Fromm identified what he called malignant narcissism. Healthy adults submit themselves willingly to something greater than themselves. Unhealthy adults don’t.
The narcissist cannot submit to something greater than themselves because there is nothing greater. In their imaginary world, they are God. And we, the ones victimized by these predatory and petulant children, we must kneel at their altar or be cast out from paradise.
[Insert: Donald Trump’s ‘chilling effect’ on free speech and dissent is threatening US democracy
[...]“Why would Alexander make that claim?” I asked.
“Because” he said, “it’s a lot easier to seize and hold
power when people think you have a connection to
their idea of divinity.”
While modern Hebrew scholars may disagree about why “amen” ends our prayers, it was a lesson for me that I’ve kept in mind ever since. Beware of leaders asserting connections to divinity, particularly if they’re grasping for political or financial power.
P - Trump is now openly encouraging his followers to think of him as divine or, at least, divinely inspired. And this isn’t a new pitch, it’s just getting a new round of attention."
Trump is now openly encouraging his followers to think of him as divine or, at least, divinely inspired. And this isn’t a new pitch, it’s just getting a new round of attention."
https://investorshub.advfn.com/boards/read_msg.aspx?message_id=176236039]
It’s a long way down, back to reality. And when we hit the ground, we often crash in a devastating and deadly way.
P. Pesqueda @ At Home in Austin
Want to learn more about Cluster B disorders and narcissistic abuse? Recovering from a relationship with a disordered person? Know someone who is struggling to make sense of the madness?
Visit .. https://www.narctroopers.com/ .. for a library of over 500 resources to help you be a trooper!
The sadness and grief that a narcissist feels is best described by Dr. Sam Vaknin when he says, “The conflict between the absence I am and the presence that I wish I were is a conflict that is ongoing. I was denied as a child. I was not allowed to become, so I never became, and I remained an unfulfilled promise.”
“Life is a process of becoming via insight. The environment acts upon our genes and helps to form us. It is insight that creates empathy. Having an insight to yourself allows you to have insight into others, and this is called theory of mind.
We are being formed as we go along. Empathy is the bridge and crossing to other people. It is only by comparing yourself to others and learning to calibrate yourself that we gain realistic insight about the world because other people are our reality testing.”
Last published May 3, 2025
After the discard phase in a relationship with a personality disordered partner, there is severe trauma that can result in PTSD and other life altering turmoil. Recovery can be painfully slow with dysregulated brain chemicals, a physiological response, addiction, and more.
Written by Prajinta Pesqueda
Educator, aspiring humanist, composer of words. Survivor, warrior, healer, believer. Contact me at Narc2Thrive@gmail.com
https://medium.com/narcissistic-abuse-recovery-collaborators/the-solipsistic-narcissist-832992b070e7
It was Plato who said, “He, O men, is the wisest, who like Socrates, knows that his wisdom is in truth worth nothing”
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