Sorry to hear evo, will say this though your dad raised a hell of a man and thats something to be proud of. (Both you & him) Really suprising and sad how selfish alot of the younger generation has become. Often tend to be more worried about themselves then there own family especially when it comes to money. :(
What you've done is a amazing thing and I'm sure you will be rewarded greatly for it. One way or another. ;)
Wishing you and your family the best. All will work out in the end I'm sure.