You spend an inordinate amount of time consumed with this crap.
Do you realize that there are human beings out there, myself included... (yes, I check that box) who wake up every day not giving a fuck about any of this?
There's a lot of variety out there. There always has been. (Hell, the Talmud apparently recognizes 6 genders, or 8 depending on how you read it. And those writings are ancient.) Leave it alone. People are entitled to that. Live your own fucking life.