No one is forcing anyone to go to college, and in America you can choose any college you want to attend, unless your grades, or you do not measure up to the academic standards that each University sets forth.
Then once you are in college, you decide which classes you want to take or major in, sure there are certain classes that each student must take to meet the Graduation level of each University.
In America each person is supposed to take responsibility for the kind of life they want to pursue. That is what the word Freedom means to most Americans.
Now you might not like certain courses, but when you study the history of America you just cannot leave the parts that offend you, it is the history of America and some of it is not pleasant.
As for how much you spend attending college, again you can go to any school you want, the university sets the price, if you do not like it, then go to a different college.
It appears everything in America appears to bother you, you can always move to China or Russia, I know there you might find exactly what you are looking for. A place for all of those individualistic decisions are made for you.