Just suggesting you perform better when you have your emotion under control. I think you've said that more than once yourself.
"No, I want to challenge these worms. I have too much invested into my own life for them to make it miserable for me.
Come walk a mile in my boots and then tell me what you think. It's been a rough few months for me personally but these idiots need to maintain themselves so the rest of us can continue to thrive."
You challenge them better when you are under control. You function more positively when you are not spilling over.
Cooling it simply means channeling it. You know what i'm talking about. Keep the stove relatively clean.