Excel, I admit to tears in my eyes on that. TY, that is what Christmas is all about.
Your story reminds me of what I saw at a spiritual site, don't remember where. It is fit for basic conversation all the time, will focus on it today with relatives.
Before you speak ask yourself about what you are about to say>>>
1. Is it respectful?
2. Is it true?
3. Is it necessary to say?
This will help you get out of your own head and focus on the other person who may be in need of your support and love.
Yes, this post qualifies on all three counts, IMO, and is really necessary for me to remember.