sarai...
Let me try to explain a bit the Biblical Christian viewpoint (as I understand it) on this for you to consider.
"There is no one in this world who could reasonably claim that a 6 year old child makes a "lifestyle" choice, or chooses sexuality, or "deviancy" or whatever..... And there is no one in this world who could argue that this child was not "meant" to be this way. This WAS his "nature"....
No one knows what causes a person to engage in homosexual behavior - only God knows that. Is it something that starts in early childhood or later or some of each - I do not have the answer to that. What I do know is that it is a matter of behavior, not birth. How else do you explain the studies where it was found that even if one person from a set identical twins separated at birth is homosexual, the other usually is not - they are from same original zygote so are an exact dna match. If it were a genetic trait ("made that way", "WAS his nature"), the other twin would always be homosexual also.
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"Who are we to say this is not what God intended, and who are we to "judge", or do anything hurtful..... Who are we to "hate" or condemn for any reason??..."
It is not our task to judge people, but we are to agree with God when He calls any behavior a sin - He is the Judge of all men and He sets the rules. For the Christian, the Bible has a number of references to homosexuality in both the Old and New Testaments where God calls homosexual behavior not only a sin, but an abomination hated by God - those quotes were cited in the article you referenced. That settles the question for a Christian, and thus we must oppose homosexual behavior as sinful and wrong.
Even though we must oppose such behavior, we are never to hate a person because he engages in homosexual activities any more than we hate the bank robber, the liar, the adulterer, or any other sinner - the idea is to hate the sin, not the sinner. I am a sinner also, and I sin many times daily in both thought and deed no matter how hard I try to avoid doing so. The death of Jesus on the cross is more than sufficient to pay for all of my sins and is more than enough to pay for the sins of those engaged in homosexual behavior also if they are willing to accept it. But for both myself and the homosexual, the words of Jesus ring true - "Go, and sin no more." The person who accepts Jesus as Lord and Savior is to do everything in his power to avoid such behavior in the future, just as I try to avoid sin in my own life - not in order to be saved, but because I am saved, by the grace of God.
I hope that helps you understand the Biblical position (as I understand it) a bit better. Unfortunately, I recognize that there are a lot of Christians that forget the part about loving the sinner and remember only the "hate the sin" part, but to be fair you can only judge Christianity by the Bible, not by all those who profess to be Christians.
mlsoft