"From what I hear more died in Afghanistan than on 9-11 yet where is our outrage at them dieing at our hands."
This numbers game is totally bogus. There is no rule in law or morality that a nation which is attacked has to stop fighting back when the number of casualties they inflict equals the number they have received. The purpose of the war in Afghanistan was not to get even, it was to destroy the ability of our attackers to attack us again.