Friday, January 05, 2001 10:49:01 AM
I faxed this letter to Ken Cook's father this morning. I'm sure we could all come up with our own horroe stories from our own family or friends.
Attention: Ken Cooks Father
I felt compelled to write you after reading Rich McBride’s part 3. I could go on volume after volume, instead I will keep it brief.
I have a 32 year old step son, and when I read Rich’s response to your son, it really hit home with me. My husband and I have done everything we can imagine to help him get on the right track for his adult life. Nothing has worked and I doubt nothing ever will, although I will tell you we do not give him any help and haven’t for the past few years.
We live in a small town 2,000 population back when I was on Grand Jury duty. Imagine my surprise and total humiliation when I had to sit in a jury room with people I knew and had to abstain from voting on the case against my step son. On a drinking binge, he broke into his former employers facility, and defecated on the equipment and all of the office equipment right down to the computer. To make matters worse this same company was a customer to our own business. Well this was the beginning of the end. He went through job after job, never lasted more than a couple of months at any of them. After working anywhere for a couple of weeks, he was smarter than is superiors, and they were all a bunch of jerks (not the word he would use). Over the years we would occasionally give him money when he would ask for a loan, knowing that we would never see the money again, and wouldn’t even go through the effort of ever trying to get him to repay. We even bought him a used vehicle to get to work in when he got out of prison. The first time my husband told him no, they money train had run out, he went on a verbal rampage. We had never done anything for him, we were scum of the earth, I’m sure you can imagine.
We had a lot of guilt over his young adult life, and we are now past that point. Once I heard him say the following phrase I knew he had to do for himself.
“It is easier to be bad than it is to be good”
If he calls we say hello, if he asks for anything we say no. Once we realized it was OK to say NO, our life became much more pleasant for us. He is 32 and if he can’t figure it out for himself, no one can figure it out for him.
I hope in its own way this letter gives you a little comfort, you not the only one in this type of a situation, although it can feels that way. Being a shareholder of SEVU since last Mar. this has all been very difficult, but I am sure we will all be happy with the results of the company in the long run.
Sincerely,
Attention: Ken Cooks Father
I felt compelled to write you after reading Rich McBride’s part 3. I could go on volume after volume, instead I will keep it brief.
I have a 32 year old step son, and when I read Rich’s response to your son, it really hit home with me. My husband and I have done everything we can imagine to help him get on the right track for his adult life. Nothing has worked and I doubt nothing ever will, although I will tell you we do not give him any help and haven’t for the past few years.
We live in a small town 2,000 population back when I was on Grand Jury duty. Imagine my surprise and total humiliation when I had to sit in a jury room with people I knew and had to abstain from voting on the case against my step son. On a drinking binge, he broke into his former employers facility, and defecated on the equipment and all of the office equipment right down to the computer. To make matters worse this same company was a customer to our own business. Well this was the beginning of the end. He went through job after job, never lasted more than a couple of months at any of them. After working anywhere for a couple of weeks, he was smarter than is superiors, and they were all a bunch of jerks (not the word he would use). Over the years we would occasionally give him money when he would ask for a loan, knowing that we would never see the money again, and wouldn’t even go through the effort of ever trying to get him to repay. We even bought him a used vehicle to get to work in when he got out of prison. The first time my husband told him no, they money train had run out, he went on a verbal rampage. We had never done anything for him, we were scum of the earth, I’m sure you can imagine.
We had a lot of guilt over his young adult life, and we are now past that point. Once I heard him say the following phrase I knew he had to do for himself.
“It is easier to be bad than it is to be good”
If he calls we say hello, if he asks for anything we say no. Once we realized it was OK to say NO, our life became much more pleasant for us. He is 32 and if he can’t figure it out for himself, no one can figure it out for him.
I hope in its own way this letter gives you a little comfort, you not the only one in this type of a situation, although it can feels that way. Being a shareholder of SEVU since last Mar. this has all been very difficult, but I am sure we will all be happy with the results of the company in the long run.
Sincerely,
