Bible

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I pray that you will be a monument of God's love
and mercy unto others, even as others tell you to
leave and abandon. Stay the course and when all
is finished....STAND.

Going to have to disagree with you.

I agree with you love is in order here.
But we also must ask ourselves what is love?
Love has many forms.
An example situation..........
When we are living with an alcoholic do we go to the store for more beer because we don't want them driving drunk? Because we love them so much we just go anyways even though we know the beer is killing their liver? Or do we take the keys away from them and do what we can to put them in a situation that won't hurt us?

No one is telling her to abandon him.
Separation with counseling is not abandment.
They are telling her to stop enabling him.
History has shown through her posts on the board, as well as PM's she has sent me, he continues to manipulate her.
Use her.

When he gets her back after playing "Mr Nice Guy" again and the threat of leaving is gone he shortly is found going right back to the old lifestyle. This is called MANIPULATION.

Sometimes one needs to separate ones self from the manipulator in order for that one to realize she is serious and catch this now...........
LOVES him ENOUGH that she would go through the hurt now, in order to regain TRUE LOVE that brings Glory to God later.

She has been on this merry go round of manipulation long enough.

God did not create us to be abused by others NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE LOVE THEM!

Love sometimes requires us to love them with wisdom, which means sometimes we can't follow our heart that feels leaving will be to hard, that the person we fell in love with will just magically come back some day to the one we fell in love with.

In 99% of the cases they won't.

Not going to happen as right now he doesn't know how to LOVE his wife. He only knows how to manipulate her.

Being nice saying all the right things till he has her where he wants her has been his MO. Shortly there after he has been right back to the bar drinking with his Lady boss.
One doesn't have to add 2 + 2 in that situation to figure out what is going on.

Separating from him is not a guarantee he will find God and learn how to love his Wife the right way. But it sure is a whole lot better then staying on this merry go round of abuse.

There is a few things in life we can be sure of.
One of them is once one learns how to use someone without a total change from God one will continue to do just that in what ever form it takes even faking being a Christian to further their agenda.