especially when my granddaughter woke my daughter up in the middle of the night and said "mom, I just had sex 'and etc'"
Since your daughter also had an abortion at 16, you would think she would have been on top of the whole (how sex works) thing and immediately put her own daughter on birth control. Did you not teach her anything??? If the young men who impregnated all the women in your family had mandatory vasectomies, #ProblemSolved! Don't you agree? Did the "fathers" ever pay you back for the money you had to shell out for their mistakes and irresponsibilities? Did you ever think of yourself as a baby killer?