You base the American life on a quick poll, most of the country lives in the reality of what they are actually doing in their lives.
As an example, having a job that you have done for years and are getting paid a living wage means that your life can absorb the daily ups and down of the life you are creating for yourself, and maybe the family you have. Then you adjust your needs to sustain that life so that you can continue in your own individual life goals.
Like I keep on trying to remind myself, you are an adult, hopefully you work and get a paycheck. Your post demonstrate that you are always looking to blame anyone for the decisions you have made in your life. If you are that unhappy, maybe you can get some professional help.