phyllostachys wrote: "you can't have it both ways.",...
that, is, your, limitation.
i submit you might live that way, limiting your self, but others don't have to revolve around your perspective or that of Dumbya's cowboy rodeo any longer,...
so,...
you get use to others passing you and your limitations by like a Ferrari on testostrone.
invest at your own risk, based on your own due diligence, at your own risk tolerance