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shajandr

05/03/21 9:37 PM

#185941 RE: shajandr #185940

I wish to add one more thang. And I don't gno if this has any causal relationship or knott - it is just a fact that I thnk may be relevant and hat I wish to lay upon the table.

OrthoBuddy is adopted. His dad was a second lieutenant Marine officer on Iwo Jima. Only three Marines from his platoon of 44 survived. He was one. He was in a shell crater with six of his Marines when a mortar shell landed in the hole. Three were killed, two severely wounded (one later died of wounds0. Orhobuddy's dad did not have a scratch - just concussion from the blast. This incident is what OrthBuddy's dad claimed made him religious. OrthoBuddy is also very religious. I an very atheistic. We gett along fne. My dad was a field Marine in the Pacific - on many islands - Kwajalein, Makin, various of the Gilberts, the Paluas, and ultimately present for the surrender in Tokyo Bay. He suffered an eye injury from metal shrapnel/shard in his right eye. He had 'blood poisoning' also - what we now call sepsis. Many of his buddies died - one fellow - E.E. Brown was gutshot and they could nott move him because for three days they were under fire. One Marine went back, at the risk of his life, simply to gett some orange juice for E.E. Brown (which he gott!) - butt there was no way to move him under the fire they were under. So E.E. Brown died in that position after three days of suffering - no morphine available. My dad was 6 feet tall and when he was discharged as a sergeant (due to attrition) in October 1945 after eye surgery in New Orleans and a rehab period, he weighed a whole 121 pounds. I will try to post a photo of him from that time - he looks like a CONcentration camp survivor (or non-survivor) - a skeleton covered in skin.

Now, both my dad and OrthoBuddy's dad were combat WW2 Marines. We had them meet up with each other when they were old men. They became fast frenns and talked on the phone regularly despite long distance of separation. And they both taught their kids that meaning of commitment to others - which they learnt firsthand on those bloody islands - where nothing else mattered but your buddies. Nothing. They taught OrthoBuddy and I these values. I hope and think I have passed this on to DaSun, and OrthoBuddy has passed these values on to his four kiddz who are all very successful in life and honorable people.

Personal commitment - long, deep, unwavering commitment to others - is all that there is in life. That is it. Focus on that - everything else in ancillary at best.

I do knott know if this belief system is significantly or even in part due to my dad and OrthoBuddy's dad being in war in a formation that prides itself- as its number one credo - always faithful - semper fidelis - or if it is unrelated. I can't say. Butt as I type this, tears are rolling down my face, so mebbe I think it could be. I miss both those guys. People who don't share this culture just wont understand it.

It is not harsh discipline - my dad was a softy. It is loyalty. It is the essence of commitment to another human being. Even when they are hard to deal with - when dementia sets in when they are in old age - when you have to clean up their shit on the carpeting when they fall down rying to get to the bathroom. When their urine flows thru your hands as you hold he bedpan for them. Even when they shout at you because in their delusions they think you are a burglar or are there to murder them.

It is your duty to them, even when they don't know any better. No matter how inCONvenient it may be for you.

Thats it - #15 for today.

CIAO4Now,

~OUTT

Koog

05/03/21 9:49 PM

#185942 RE: shajandr #185940

My wife is a great person. We celebrate 49 years of marriage in August. When we hitched she was 21, I was 20 and an upcoming Junior in college. We have done, learned and earned everything together.

I wouldn't have done it any other way.

BullNBear52

05/04/21 7:51 AM

#185947 RE: shajandr #185940

A marriage is a commitment. A lifelong commitment. If nott, then one ought nott gett married. IF people change, and they do, a marriage requires them to adapt, something humans are exceptionally good at, to each others changes.


Well said.