ugh that brought back an unpleasant flashback,
I was taking my mom in weekly, sometimes via ambulance, for profound anemia due to loss from a bloom in her colon. This went on for 4 months during which time she often stated 'why can't I just die', until going thru' six gastros I lucked on to a man brave enough to operate on her. Amazing how her mind cleared up and zest for life returned, but mostly I was lucky to have found such an amazing confident and talented man.
I certainly don't envy you and would caution you two about your own health in dealing with such a stressful situation, which is a real thing, trust me.