You've been given some truly sage advice, Jeff. And you took it, which is no surprise to me, having met you.
I'm so glad you got a chance to understand your dad, and you can carry that with you for the rest of your life. Your mother is very lucky to have you. I hope the rest of the family realizes the mistake they are making before it is too late.
" You have the rest of your life to be angry with your parents, now is not the time "
What wonderful advice!
Ever notice that if there are gay kids in a family that it's always them that ends up being the care taker for one or both of the parents? Wonder why that is?