Okay so he complimented you and then, due to your self-esteem issues you allowed him to have his way with you and this is his fault? Hmmm.
Personally, I would find a spittoon very frightening. but maybe they are more common in your area.
See, you can be positive. This is a proud moment in the Grotto. You are making a favorable comparison between British women and women from the South. I need a moment to regain my composure.