I understand your thoughts - all put into music by Mahler in his Song of the Earth.
NNVC will help a bit by giving some of us more time to come to grips with this problem - perhaps never completely solvable, but certainly possible to be handled better.
Please accept my sympathy and best wishes. leifsmith at gmail.com
Thank you for sharing that with us.... God Bless you and your Beloved wife........... Your love for each other is just like the love my parents had for each other they cherished every moment together ..... NNVC will come through for us, I have always felt it will... :>)