I hear ya & it seems that this is a, I don't know if prevailing is the right word but it's an attitude that's popular especially with pinks. And yeah there's alot of truth to it but I say it ain't all on the buyer.
I say it's this thinking that helps enable them to perpetuate what they do over & over. They realize nobody will do anything about it because they're a pink. I submit that lots of what they do is because they can get away with it.