I totally understand and hope you didn't take the relax comment as cynical. It was a more casual comment if you heard it verbally from me.
It is ok to ask questions. It is ok to think logically. I didn't get the impression of negative intent from your post like I get from others.
It is at times more frustrating for me too, but lately, with the execution of what Dean has promised, I am feeling a lot more relaxed about what I have. One day, soon hopefully, we will be high-fiving.