yes and they are always surprised lol. Still they get away with plenty I am not punitive and when they have taken on more risk than is smart I am so relieved they came out of it ok anger just isn't something that shows up in that context for me. We are close though and they know how I feel and that they should matter enough to themselves to take care of themselves, and that seems to work well enough in the end, knock on wood. There are so many things to be concerned about you want them to feel they can come to you if they need to. They never want to of course but when it is serious you hope and pray they will.