Actually, old man. We're approximately the same age if your profile is correct.
I try not to burden anyone with my life's experiences because they're history. And they were sometimes painfull, and they were usually my fault.
I have no doubt that you consider yourself to be a happy, credible, healthy person. I can appreciate your self image.
I wonder, though, is what you see as OLA, what the rest of the world sees as OLA.
Blending what others see, what you see, and what is ~ is a difficult chore accomplished by few. Would you like to work on that? Or, will you reject it because it doesn't fit your view of tolerance.