Matt,
I know I am posting this to Tom, but I also know you are watching.
How about starting a thread where deleted messages are posted and voted upon.
Should they be be totally deleted, or posted to another thread, maybe a "deleted post thread"?.
Posts with curses should probably be deleted because the poster lacks the ability to convey a thought without cursing.
But we as a community should be able to decide whether the post is justified or not.
It would be easy to start a thread that would post every deleted post from every thread and let members decide if the post should be permantly deleted.
Have fun,
Phil