Harsh, very good and insightful. I agree with much you said.
I would add two further things.
1. Badge put it this way: trust but verify. Messages boards are no place to do this.
2. Time. One must take time with the primaries to know their character and integrity, their honesty and committment, their nature and ability. I have spent days doing this. I am at peace with my decision. In addition, I continue to be strengthened in my decisions as time passes.