Ruby,
I've taken my lumps, admitted that this was a "bad" investment and that the money was "lost." Now, I don't really believe that but it has after some serious cold shoulders and general bad attitudes, resulted in her not bringing up the subject again because its a "lost cause." One day when my plans come to fruition, I will surprise her with... "Do you remember that little stock..."
anyhow, handle your situation however is best for you, but thats what worked for me.
m_a_d