"Is knowing how derfie was abused as a kid going to change Milkman's impression of derfie? "
Wrong question, to the topic at hand.
The topic I raised did not touch upon, for example, Ted Kopple's experience of being Jewish (responsibility for the crucifixion of Jesus) as a "white kid" in a community where the majority is Christian did not cause Ted Kopple to accumulate rage, only hatred.
For example, being bullied and picked-on was not the substance of my explanation of the events, so posted in the last few days.
As for your question echoed at the top of this post, its non-sequential in the pathways I understand your mental awareness of yourself to not acknowledge what you have.