The only certain truth about the things you read is that it is written by someone…. nothing more nothing less !
Same goes for everything you hear…….it’s got absolutely nothing to do with true or false, more with opinion, strategy etc.
Take some religious books for example, all about believe hardly any facts; What is a livelong truth, fact, way of living, etc. etc for one is a joke, fairy tale, bs, etc. etc. for the other…
Everybody on this forum thinks, feels, believes, presumes something…..but no one knows for real. It’s all just a matter of what works for you and what you assume to be the truth.
Of course in the end there’s always someone who says….see I told you so, I was right…… that is the moment you know they’re confusing “knowing” and just being lucky.
Take all the info here as well (some bs some great) and see what your stomach tells you... that's YOUR truth.
Good luck !
Very sorry about your husband, hope you will be ok.
