AMEN!
My Wife cares for people like your Mom. I hear the stories daily. So hard on everyone when that condition takes over.
She does everything from those that need help dressing, meals, to taking meds to hospice work. She has had many die in her arms. It's not easy.
There must be some type of technology out there for this situation that would set off an alarm type of system so you know if she goes out of the house with out you. I'd do some research on that. Get a hold of that organization and see if they have some type of bracelet for that.
If you took away the stress of not even being able to take a shower without worrying she would leave this would be a huge load off of you.
God bless you!
Remember, you are NO GOOD to your MOTHER if you don't get a break now and then yourself.
I guarantee you the biggest reason people fail in this situation having a break down is not taking time for themselves to get away EVERY WEEK at least some amount of time.
Plant extra for the Food Banks!
No matter what you make. All that you can take. Is what you give away.
Vince Gill