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Vitamins for Your Soul, Part VI

If you've been "taking your vitamins" for your soul, since I started these tips, you've probably noticed some lightening and some expansion in yourself. And lightening up as a trader will help you immensely. So far your recommended vitamins have included:

1. Focus on the Moment;
2. Make Yourself Laugh;
3. If Something Bothers You, Give It To God;
4. Give Thanks Every Day for your Blessings; and
5. Follow Your Bliss

This week we will add another interesting tip, Commit to Love.

Commit to Love

Two months ago, I attended a self-improvement workshop given by someone that I considered to be very loving. Most of the workshop involved people bringing up problems and he would very lovingly help them release the problem. That was great, but I noticed that certain people would bring the same problem up over and over and over again. In fact, one person, who might be described as a "starving actor," had been to over ten of these workshops and he was still bringing up trivial stuff – almost as if he'd accomplished nothing. Nevertheless, the workshop guru laughed with him and gently took him through a release of his problem.

My initial thought was "how can he not react to that person bringing up the same stuff over and over again." In fact, I'm sure he got the workshop for free for being an assistant, but that means he's probably brought up the same stuff over and over again at each workshop. And again I thought, "how can he not react to this person's lack of progress?" And then he told me the secret. The secret was to love the person as he was. This means that he has no emotional investment on whether or not the person makes a change. He just loves him, which means he can respond lovingly, no matter what happens. And when I understood that, I really began to understand what unconditional love really means.

So this week's tip is all about being loving. That means loving everything exactly as it is without any judgment.

Most of our decisions are made from fear and worry. I can remember numerous times in the past when I might have noticed that a future workshop we were doing had a very low enrollment. My natural tendency would be to start to worry about that. What if no more people enroll? What if there is not enough enrollments to pay for speakers fees much less the hotel? But what if we cancel? Then we have a bad reputation with the hotel because they cannot rely on us. We also lose all the marketing money we've already spent on the workshop. I could go on and on with that kind of dialogue and worry. When I do that, I'm operating out of fear and that's not useful. Instead, I elect to operate from love.

One way to operate out of love is to declare who you are. For example, you might make a declaration that says: "I'm a loving, kind, compassionate man." Write it out! Memorize it and declare it to yourself so that it becomes second nature to you. And, when you make decisions, you then begin to say, "What does a loving, kind, compassionate man do in this situation?" He certainly doesn't make decisions based upon fear. Instead, he makes decisions based upon love and compassion. And, of course, the first thing that pops into my mind when I say that is "How can I handle this situation so that everyone wins?" What more can I give to increase enrollment in this workshop? How can I add more value to this workshop so that more people can attend? And, of course, those responses get a much different response than saying to yourself, "We're going to lose a lot of money here even if I cancel the workshop."

So here's your next assignment: Start doing what you love to do. Notice what you love to do and what you dislike doing and move toward doing what you love. Even if it seems scary, try selecting what you love to do. And when you do that, notice the results you get.

Secondly, decide who you are and make a commitment statement that reflects who you are. That statement might go something like: "I'm a powerful, generous, kind leader!" Or, "I'm a courageous, loving, compassionate woman." Write down whatever you think might fit you. Put it on a sheet of paper and memorize it. And when you make decisions read your personal declaration and act as if it were true. Once you've done that, then make your decision. If you do, you'll probably find that your results are much different in all aspects of your life.

Dr. Van K Tharp
TradingEducation.com