Parents win suit to kick 30-year-old deadbeat son out of their house. . .
I seem to suffer from "See It Differently" disease. I'm not pleased that the parents won in court. Their son should remain at home.
I'm convinced that the proper role for parents is to raise children who are able to mature, become independent, and take their place in the World. This couple failed miserably.
Why should society shoulder the burden of supporting this parasite? And let's be clear about it, this fellow will be suckling on the Public's Teat once weaned from his parents'. Why should we let the parents off the hook? Decisions have consequences. When choices are bad, outcomes cannot be good.
And what kind of an example does this set? Screw up Royally -- it's OK because society will "Kiss it and make it better!" What's the next guy to think? "Should I make the tough choices or take the 'Easy Way?'"
Father used to say "If you break it, you fix it." So the question now is "How is this son to be fixed." (It's tempting to say that he should be fixed the same way the family dog gets "fixed," but that's not a really useful suggestion.) A better approach would be to teach him the skills for survival in this world. And as those skills develop, reduce the support he's given. Eventually, he'll be ready and eager to leave.
In the meantime, I'm sure the parents will enjoy their victory. But the reality is they produced son who is a failure. When that sinks in, it's gonna be painful.
Cheers, PW.
