You know, Mary, I'm not much interested in the history of all this stuff, and I doubt many others are.
The "he hit me first" excuse has never impressed me much as a parent, and it impresses me still less here on the boards.
If you simply post in a mature, responsible way, and others keep namecalling you, then you will have the satisfaction of watching them be suspended while you keep posting away. As it is now, though, with 18 post deletions in seven days, and you still whining about how unfair life is to you, it really doesn't make a very good impression, nor give any indication that you have a real clue as to what responsible posting is like.
Once again, I probabably have wasted my time, as I did with Joe.
But hope springs eternal.